Retrain Your Brain

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Our brain is the most complex organ in our body. Although it inhabits only two percent of our body, it is responsible for all of our functions. It’s what makes us human. It’s what gives us the capacity for art, rational thought, language. You have more control over your brain than you think you do.

Point of No Return

Last year I suffered a complete and total emotional breakdown to the point where my husband and brother nearly hospitalized me for my own safety and protection. Not long after, I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I was terrified to leave my house, terrified of being with others or even talking to others. I barely got any sleep, my continual fears and anxieties engulfed me. I cried excessively, continually, yet couldn’t explain why. I was on six different medications to “control” this mental tornado.

Deep down I knew I was meant for something more, something that would transform my life, something that would be the beginning of my life’s work, something I would wake up excited to work on. I am responsible for my own happiness, my future. I need to make decisions, accept changes and take risks.

Changing my mindset was the only way to survive. This was no small task. I had to eat, breathe and sleep the reality I wanted to create, but where do I find the strength, the motivation, the inspiration?

The Here and Now

Fast-forward one year. My husband and I have built our own business. I’m free from the shackles of the nine-to-five life. I’m free of medications. How did I get here? My foundation was retraining my brain.  I had to at least go through the motions of taking action, even if I didn’t yet believe I could or know my goal or intention. I took a leap of faith. I trusted and invested in myself.


Exercise for the Mind

Just as our bodies need exercise, our brains do as well. We need to constantly learn, constantly “up our game.” But who’s got time to sit with a book, right? In today’s digital age and all the senses we possess, there are many outlets available for some brain work outs:

BookBubBookbub offers a free membership for access to a wide variety of ebooks on endless topics!


MentorBox offers insights and guidance from experienced, successful CEOs, authors and more via ebooks and masterclasses!

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Apps on your phone that can test and track progress as well as provide general information about brain health and fitness.!


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Event Highlight: Neurogym’s Sixth Annual Brain-A-Thon

BrainAThonYou can join a free webinar Saturday, January 20, 9:00am Pacific Standard Time (12:00pm Eastern Standard Time). This webinar is scheduled to include brain and success experts with specific strategies on how to disempower your fears and develop empowering habits and the mindset you need to break through those barriers that are preventing you from achieving your personal success in life.

When I made the decision to take control of my life’s direction, my first action had to be to stop repeating the same habits and routines every single day expecting to reach some goal by doing that. In the words of my very wise uncle, “Some people never find anything, they just exist.” I don’t want to be one of those who just walk through life, existing. You probably don’t want to either, and that’s why you’re here.  If you are ready to take control of your life, contact me for the tips, training and content that has helped me launch my own digital marketing career that gives me the freedom to give back, to make my schedule, my choices, my rules.

I would love to hear from you!

Click here to let me know if you put into use any of the tools listed above, your experiences and feedback. Let me know if something benefited you. Let me know if something just flat-out sucked. Give me the truth. I want you to realize what I have and that you can live the life you want, no matter where you are right now and what you have been through. Take a moment to think about what you it would feel like to take control and own your future, then take action and take that first step forward.

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Five Steps to Tap Into Your Personal Inspiration and Get Out Your Comfort Zone

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Looking for some inspiration?

Inspiration is within you, but you have to find it and tap into it. That’s not so easy when we’re surrounded by our comforts. We all have ’em: comfort foods, comfort movies, etc. Comfort foods and movies aren’t unhealthy when enjoyed in moderation, but if we stay in the comfort zone of our life, we stagnate and end up just going through the motions of a day and what’s expected of us to produce.

When I was 26 years old, I was living in Chicago, married with a two-year-old son. My husband was going to law school, I was working as a legal assistant in the city, everything was on schedule, bright future ahead. I was in my comfort zone, or so I thought. On the morning of February 2, 1993, I was crossing a street to the train station to get to work, but I never made it to the other side. I was hit by a car. The head injury was so severe that my dad, a physician, was certain I would remain in a vegetative state if I lived at all. What followed was a week in a coma followed by six weeks of hospitalization and two years of physical therapy. Wow, did that throw me out of my comfort zone. I had to retrain my brain and relearn a lot of things.

Of course, that accident was not an intentional change. Life throws changes at us that we don’t expect. But if we are comfortable and experienced with making our own intentional life changes, we’re better prepared for the unexpected. It’s why schools and other institutions have fire drills: if we are organized and know our goal, our intention, we’re better prepared to put out those fires that find their way into our lives.


John C. Maxwell is a brilliant, effective author and speaker, one of my favorites. One quote I’m reminded of on this topic of inspiration: “If we are growing we are always going to be outside our comfort zone.” Mr. Maxwell’s book, “Failing Forward,” is both inspiring and motivating. Also available in audio. I personally found it very helpful. I hope you do, too.

Need a little more inspiration? Jean Dawson took her first yoga class at age 67. After that, she became a certified Yogi, and was still at it when she reached an incredible 100 years old in 2016. In 2017, Vito Perillo was elected as mayor of his town in New Jersey at the age of 93, making the political newcomer the oldest winner that Election Day. These are just two examples of people who didn’t wait for change to come to them. They tapped into their own personal inspiration, chased the change, did the uncomfortable, and no doubt had to make a lot of changes in their mindsets, their routines, and their habits to make their dreams reality.

So how do I find my inspiration?

How do we initiate change? And what if we don’t have a specific goal? You don’t need to have a life-changing event or unhappiness in your life to want to feel refreshed, renewed and rejuvenated by incorporating new routines into our day.

We all know what happens with new year’s resolutions – they never last. To make intentional changes in our lives, to move forward, we need to create new habits, not make resolutions. However, inspired by the beginning of the new year and the knowledge that I haven’t made many changes in my own life recently, I’ve incorporated a few new habits into my daily routine. They are small but they have been very effective, reminding me that I’m in control – the only way to affect change is to make changes in myself.

It’s not what you do in a day; it’s about what you do daily! Today’s challenge: add one of the following five easy routines to your daily routine, starting now. They are small changes, easy to incorporate into any daily routine and will inspire and motivate you to continue to move forward, to take risks, and pick up a few more good habits.

Begin your day with water

I love my coffee; my day doesn’t start without it. But I’ve recently modified my morning routine to start with drinking some water prior to my beloved coffee. It’s given me a much-needed boost of energy at the start of my day, you have to feel it to know the difference it can make. And I’ve reduced my coffee intake, which is an added bonus!

Walk at least 30 minutes a day

This drastically reduces your cholesterol and blood pressure. Doesn’t even have to be done all at the same time, break it up into different increments if needed. Take the stairs, have a “walking meeting” at work, go for a walk with your family before or after dinner. Don’t give the kids a choice – they’re going!

Include at least one color at every meal

On your shopping day, follow a list, buy produce in bulk, wash and cut up when you get home and you’re set for the week. You’re much more likely to throw the colors in if you’ve spent the money on them and they’re ready to go at all times.

Reduce your news intake

With all the information we have available instantly, at all times, it’s very easy to get sucked into receiving that information continually. It’s emotionally debilitating and draining. It really does suck the life out of you. Just like our food intake, what comes in goes out and you are what you ingest, physically and mentally. When you take in toxins, it poisons you. I cut my newspaper delivery to two days a week and block a maximum of 15 minutes of news intake per day. It’s been so liberating, there are days I go with zero news intake.

Listen to inspirational audio at least 15 minutes per day

Have a commute to and from work each day? Instead of listening to the negative news for the day (I used to do that, completely wasted time I’ll never get back), pick up an audio series from your local library. I recently listened to Michael J. Fox’s “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Future,” picked up at my library. Incredible story and perspectives, heard from Michael himself. And there’s TONS of free stuff on YouTube. Even better, listen to inspirational audio while doing your walking!

Define Yourself

How do you define yourself? Are you stuck in that definition or will you take the wheel? In your pursuit of success, personally and professionally, you need to search for and welcome the uncomfortable. Success is not limited to financial success. Success in life is so much more than that. However, financial security allows you to take control of your life and stop being barked at by a supervisor who cares nothing about you or your goals. Are you ready to take control of that? Are you ready to be the boss? If you are ready to take control of your life, contact me for the tips, training and content that has helped me launch my own digital marketing career that gives me the freedom to give back, the freedom to make my schedule, my choices, my rules.

I intentionally use the verbiage pursuit of success, not finding success, because it is a constant state of pursuit. I don’t think there’s ever an end to the journey in pursuit of happiness and success, at least there shouldn’t be. Will Smith’s character explains this brilliantly in the incredible movie, The Pursuit of Happyness. If you haven’t seen it, definitely do, use it as a springboard to jump into the new chapter of your life you’re about to write!

Stephanie Adams



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Hello and welcome to my first blog!

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Thanks so much for joining me. If you’re here, you may have read through the “About” section of my website. If you haven’t had a chance, please click here so I can share my background with you. It’s okay, I’ll wait!

Have you read it? Did you connect with something? Did something click? You clicked, so it probably did! As this is my first blog, of course I haven’t been doing this for too long. But as I’ve gone through the challenges, successes and failures in my life, the greatest resources and inspiration for me came from those who have been there.

My intention with my blog is to be that resource and inspiration for others who are going through the challenges and difficulties that I’ve been through and come out the other side, worn out but focused and stronger for it:

  • Parenting
  • Divorce
  • Cancer
  • Career
  • Depression
  • Abusive relationships
  • Burying your parents
  • Forgiveness
  • Self-acceptance

Most importantly: taking charge of your life and navigating your own course, direction and intention starting now.

Hitting age 50 was a biggie, bigger than I anticipated. I can’t remember a decade change being as powerful since I turned 20 – I’m not a teenager anymore, I’m an adult, holy crap! What do I do now? Now it’s: holy crap, most likely I’ve passed the mid-point of my life, I’m entering that “last chapter.” How did that happen so quickly? What do I do now? I thought I would have it all together at this point. My parents sure did, or at least I thought they did. I sure don’t.

A part of my story I didn’t share in my “About” section happened to me last year. I would like to share that with you if you’ll stick with me a little longer. At the age of 50, I had a complete and total emotional breakdown to the point where my husband and brother nearly hospitalized me for my own safety and protection. I was diagnosed with a dozen different emotional conditions and prescribed half a dozen medications. It’s been a brutal year, probably the most difficult yet in my life. Looking back, I’m glad it happened. It forced me to truly look at myself and my life, completely open and raw. It forced me to walk away from my nine-to-five job and my husband and I to truly look at our income and finances, open and raw. It forced us to make changes. We have since started our own business. It’s hard work and takes time, but we’re doing it together, on our time, by our rules. I’m not longer stuck behind a desk being told what to do by someone who only cares about his own bottom line.

For those of us entering that “last chapter,” we must let go of the expectations of those around us and take charge of our own well-being, our own direction, our own intention. Hopefully, we have a lot of time left. I want my time to effective, rewarding and meaningful. I look forward to sharing resources and challenging you to take action in reclaiming and redefining your own path moving forward on that journey.

I’m blessed to now be building a business with my husband, free from the shackles of the nine-to-five life, free from medications, and have the time to connect with you, providing value, resources, action tips and inspiration as you go through difficulties in our own journey. I want you to use my experiences and my breakdown to help you work through your challenges and find your intention. I would love to hear from you, hear your story, your goals. I look forward to connecting with you. We’re on this incredible journey together, let’s make the most of it.

Thanks for joining me on my first blog! Please let me know your thoughts, ideas and questions so I can use them in future blogs and hit on topics you want to hear about and that we can all learn from!

Game on – the best is yet to come!

Stephanie Adams

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